Lynda Frederick’s Poem


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I would love to share this touching and moving poem with you. I am sure it will have a significant impact on kids, parents, and educators. Children are children, they deserve to be loved and respected no matter who they are and where they are. I hope this poem will serve as a wake-up call, so people will stop bullying others and let them live life to the fullest.

that little girl who came to school with the clothes she wore the day before
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
the little girl who had to walk to school while others rode the bus
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
the little girl who had bruises and was dirty
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
the little girl who was always crying
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
the little girl who had unshaven legs while the other girls were shaving
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
the little girl who was hungry all the time and would sometimes beg
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
the little girl who didn’t celebrate holidays or participate in school functions
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
the little girl who was different in many ways
instead of asking why.. you picked on her
you spat on her
you called her names
that little girl was me
that little girl was longing for friendship and didn’t get it
that little girl needed a hug and was pushed away
that little girl had love in her heart to share with all but no one wanted it
that little girl was me
that little girl grew up in difficult times at home and at school
and instead of asking why.. you picked on her
this WOMEN has grown up now
however the little girl inside still crys
because her childhood was shattered
because instead of asking why.. you picked on her

The related article can be found at:

http://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/ExclusiveClassmates-Make-Amends-With-Bullied-Student-151966805.html

Escondido Classmates Make Amends With Bullied Student

那个小女孩
那个小女孩穿着前一天的衣服来到学校
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
小女孩步行到学校,而其他人乘坐巴士
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
小女孩既肮脏又有瘀伤
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
小女孩总是哭
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
小女孩有没有把毛剃掉的腿,而其他女孩却把毛剃掉
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
小女孩经常挨饿有时还乞讨
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
小女孩没有庆祝节日或参加学校活动
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
小女孩在许多方面不一样
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
你们向她吐口水
你们咒骂她
那个小女孩就是我…
那个小女渴望友谊,并没有得到友谊
那个小女孩需要一个拥抱,却被推开
那个小女孩在她心中满了爱要与大家分享,但却没有人要接受…
那个小女孩是我
那个小女孩在家里和学校很艰辛的长大
不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……
这个女人现在已经长大了
但她内在小女孩仍然哭泣着
因为她的童年己深深的被震碎
因为不问她为什么……你们却欺负她……

这是一位在1987年加州圣地亚哥Escondido高中毕业生,Frederick在25周年同学会Facebook网页上刋登了以上描述她过去令人心碎经历的诗句。

这诗句带来同班同学们源源不断的支持以及对过去所发生事件的遗憾。

“这首诗让我感觉如此糟糕,我无法入睡,我哭了,”Frederick的同学丽莎告诉圣地亚哥NBC电台。

43岁的肖恩·戈登说当他念这首诗时,他眼中满了泪水,他感谢她登出这反霸凌的信息,他要给他十几岁的女儿看。
他还记得,当Frederick被嘲弄时他站在那里。
“一个混混一直要绊倒她,”他说 “我可以为她说话但却没有。”

同学克里斯蒂对NBC说,她记得过去发生霸凌事件,但感到无力阻止他们。 “我为她觉得难过,但我从来未想过我能帮助她,也从来没有去支持她一次。”

Frederick告诉记者 “这记忆永远不会离开你。对霸凌别人的人,它可能仅仅是一个短暂时期,但对被欺负的人,却一辈子活在他记忆中。”

“同学现在都来向我道歉,” Frederick说“有一位男同学打电话给我,我们在电话上谈了一个小时,他哭了又哭了。”我一直告诉他说“你不能修正昨天发生的事,但我们可以尝试改变今天。”

丽莎和许多同学与 Frederick 连络为那些年来所作所为道歉,他们设立了以她的名字为名的奖学基金,并为她筹好了去参加同学会的机票, Frederick已同意去。

虽然42岁的Frederick仍然记得那些同学向她丢石头、吐口水……,她想上帝宽恕她,她也已经原谅了她的同学。

Frederick说,当时她的家庭贫困,她提前一学期毕业,后来从加州搬到很远的纽约Seneca Falls市。她现在有三个孩子,其中14岁的女儿,现在在学校被欺负。

Frederick告诉她女儿,“眼睛看着你的同学告诉他们-如果你不喜欢我的穿着,或不喜欢我的长相-就不要看!” (上面资料来自网路)

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