Getting Away From Habitual Thought – Alice Lin (2)


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We are often constrained by habitual thought. I certainly was when I started working as a community liaison. The job required me to “cold call” on physicians, visiting their offices to solicit the opportunity for my company to provide in-home nursing services for homebound patients. Every day I would follow the schedule I had planned the night before. In theory, the more doctors I visited, the more success I would enjoy. I would list several doctors in my planner every evening. My goal was to meet them all. Unfortunately, sometimes I did not get the opportunity to actually talk to any of the doctors whose offices I was calling on.

After enough incidents where I struck out, I knew I needed a different strategy in order to succeed in my marketing efforts. I decided I would no longer follow my traditional approach to soliciting business. I wanted to get out of my routine and follow my instincts. So I would meditate before I headed out every morning. I would then follow whatever thought came to me. The following are examples of what happened then.

One morning, I got up quite early. The only thought I had was to visit a doctor’s office in Diamond Bar, so off I went. Since I did not know the area well, I gave myself plenty of time to find my way around. But after searching 30 minutes for the office, I grew frustrated. I was about to give up, but I gave it one last shot.

Fortunately, I finally found the place I was looking for. The moment I walked in, the doctor happened to come out. He asked if I was from a home health agency. I answered with a quick “yes,” and he said, “OK, here is a patient your agency can take care of.” He then gave me a piece of paper with the patient’s information. I was surprised and excited to acquire a new patient so effortlessly.

My daughter was amazed that I got a patient on my first visit to that office. She said, “Mom, you must have God on your side to be given a patient just like that.” Little did she know that there were more to come.

When I first began this work I had no idea what to do. Having been a biology major in college, I was working as a scientific researcher, a job that rarely required me to talk to anyone. It seemed impossible to switch from such a job to a community liaison position that requires a lot of talking and communication with others. Yet at the time, since there was nothing open for me in my own field and I was eager to , I had no choice but to embark on this new career path.

A couple of months later, while I was driving near one of the busier areas of Los Angeles, I somehow felt the urge to stop at a particular doctor’s office. I was not familiar with the area, and this made me feel a bit uneasy. I went inside and gave the receptionist my business card and waited to see a doctor. A gentleman came out after five minutes and motioned for me to follow him as he went out the office door. I thought he might be getting a snack next door, so I went right behind him. But he did not stop and just went straight to his car. I told myself, “Well, he looks like a doctor. He dresses like a doctor. He came out of the office. He must be a doctor.” Honestly, I did not know what to do except follow him.

I was still telling myself that it was all right to go with the gentleman in his car and started to make conversation by introducing my company and myself. As I was talking, he stopped in front of a hospital. We proceeded to the physicians’ lounge where he ate some food that the hospital had prepared for doctors on the go. Eventually, we wound up in a patient’s room where he did an examination and spoke with the patient in Spanish. Finally, he turned to me and told me to greet the patient. I was not sure whether the patient understood English, so I just wished him a speedy recovery.

On the way out, the doctor asked if I had been bored following him on his rounds. I told him it had been an eye-opening experience and that I appreciated it immensely. He made a final stop at the nurses’ station and wrote on a patient’s chart. He then turned to me and gave me a piece of paper with information about the patient and told me that this case was for me. I was in awe!

Wow, I had gotten a patient without begging! When the doctor took me to the hospital, he had already planned to give me a case. It seemed strange, but I knew my instinct had helped me get results.

It is quite difficult to solicit business from doctors. Many of them have been working with home health agencies for years, and they are not necessarily open to meeting new marketers. When I first started the job, there were times when I would sit in an office, waiting to see the doctor, for a couple of hours. The longest time I waited was four hours – from the time the doctor’s first patient went in until the last one came out.

One day I distinctly remember a receptionist telling me to wait after I gave her my business card. So I sat there. Half an hour passed … then an hour … then a second hour. Finally, the receptionist grabbed an opportunity to ask the doctor whether he could see me when he came out to the front. “NO,” was the doctor’s response, loud and clear. Not only did he refuse to see me, but he also said it loud enough for me – and everyone else – to hear him. My eyes started to water because I felt humiliated.

Somehow, I swallowed my pride, kept my composure and managed to leave gracefully. Once I was outside, the tears came flooding out; they were hard to control. Fortunately, I managed to turn the situation around by going into a boutique in the same shopping mall to reward myself for my courage. I bought myself six lovely blouses and a couple of pairs of pants. The owner gave me an additional discount because he saw the tears in my eyes.

Six months later, as I was driving toward the east side of town, a couple of blocks before I got on the highway, I had a hunch that I needed to make a U-turn and go back to visit a doctor’s office I had just passed. I knew I had to follow my intuition; otherwise, I risked missing out on something good! As I walked in, a new doctor saw me and invited me to follow him. He was unusually young – about the age of one of my sons. So I just talked to him about the life lessons I had learned, and I gave him advice. As we were deep in conversation, I forgot why I was there. He seemed willing to listen to me, and after 10 minutes he asked if I had come from a home health agency. I said yes, and he picked up a paper from the table and told me that this patient needed service. Amazing, it was as though he had that paper with the patient’s information just for me, ready to go! This happened without my asking for the business. All I needed to do was take it.

Actually, we can get out of habitual thought easily if we can visualize the benefits and improvements in our life by simply taking action. Moreover, if we understand this is the key to success and the turning point toward achieving our dream, I believe everyone can get out of habitual thought.

Note: This is a modification of my article Divinity at Work (Getting Past Habitual Thought)http://loveneverending.com/?p=1486 which I posted earlier in this blog and will include in my book.

突破慣性思維讓神性作工

我們一直受制於我們習慣的思維。當我改行開始了我的公關工作時,我也應用這思維。前一天晚上我都會先計劃時間表,設定好一天該看幾位醫生。據統計學的數據,拜訪客戶數目越多 (在我的例子則是醫生),成功率的比例便相對的會比較高,因此我總是計劃多拜訪幾位醫生。但後來發覺見到他們的時間很難控制,而且有時還不見得能够見到他們。

慢慢的我知道必須採取不同的策略,才能在這不容易作的公關上成功。我決定不再按照通常的方式來作。我試著擺脫這種習慣思維方式,而按照我的直覺去作。換句話說,每天早上出門之前,我都會靜默下來遵循直覺。以下是所發生的一些例子。

一天早上沒有來由的忽然早起。唯一的感動是要去鑽石吧市一位醫生的辦公室。那城市離我公司還算相當遠,開車要四十分。由于較早起來,我想我有足夠的時間,即使迷路我還會在中午以前到達。因為實在對該地區不熟,開來開去為仍未能找到目的地而越來越沮喪。一直想放棄,但我還是決定最後再試一次。

幸運的是我終于找到了醫生的辦公室。我一走進去了,醫生剛好走出來,他問我:“你是從家庭護理公司來的嗎?”我回答“是”,他說:“好,這裡有一個病人,你的公司可以派護士去照顧他”。接著給了我患者的資料。我雖然感到不可思議,但非常高興和感動能如此輕鬆的得到病人。

我的女兒對我第一次到醫生的辦公室,醫生便給我病人感到吃驚。她對我說:「媽媽,你的神一定在你身邊,才能那麼輕而易舉的得到病人。」我接替她這工作前,她己經作了一年多,這麼輕而易舉的得到病人,她還沒碰到過呢! 她作夢也沒想到這只是開始而已呢!

我記得當我第一次成為公關(基本上是代表家庭護理公司,去找醫生,當他們在醫院讓病人出院時,有些病人無法到醫生辦公室,但需要繼續被照顧,或者復健也一樣。醫生便會要家庭護理公司像我們的公司派護士去病人家裡照顧他們)我完全不懂如何作這行。我出國後在學校主要是作生物化學方面的研究,當然我的工作不太需要說話。整天面對的是:電子顯微鏡,離心機,試管,放射性,同位素等,不需要講話。要從以前的工作换成完全靠說話來作公關的行業簡直不太可能,當時很難找到本行的工作。除了嘗試這一新的職業我並沒有別的選擇餘地,加上我又需要工作 ,我只好接受這個挑戰。

在兩個月後,我開車在洛杉磯的街道上,不知何故,我突然覺得有感動要去探訪那附近一個醫生的辦公室。我並不熟悉那地段,感到有些不安。我進去後立刻給前面負責接待的女孩我的名片,然後等待醫生叫我進去他的辦公室。

5 分鐘後,一位西班牙紳士來到我面前作手勢告訴我跟著他。我想他可能要去隔壁小吃店喝咖啡,便跟着他走出來,但他沒有停止,一逕走向他的車子。好吧,我告訴自己,他看上去像一名醫生,穿著也像一名醫生,又從醫務室出來,他必須是一名醫生吧! 老實說,除了跟他,我也不知道該怎麼辦?

我不停地安慰自己這樣作是對的,上了車,我開始介紹自己和公司。忽然,他把車子停在醫院前面,然後走向醫生休息室裡,他吃了一些醫院為醫生準備的食物。接著,帶我到病人的房間,他檢查了病人用西班牙語與他交談。忽然,他轉向我,告訴我問候病人。我不知道該病人會不會英語,蕳單的告述他,祝他早日康復。

從病人的房間裡出來時,醫生問我是否對跟着他來探視病人感到很煩。我禮貌地告訴他,這是一個給我大開眼界的經驗,而且我也十分感謝有這個機會。他最後一站來到護士站,寫完病人的資料。忽然他轉身向我,給我患者的資料,並告訴我,這是給我的病人,我簡直不敢相信!

哇,這真是一個大神蹟! 當這位醫生把我從他的辦公室帶醫院,他似乎已經準備給我病人了,但在這之前他既沒見過我也不知道我的公司。但卻給我病人,這些事情的發生無法解釋,我只能感謝神性給我直覺走岀習慣性的框框

作公關並不是一件容易的事,何况其中許多醫生已經用其他的家庭護理公司很久了,不一定願意見我。當我剛開始時,有一次,我坐在辦公室等醫生,從第一個病人進去到最後的病入出來,他才肯見我時己經是四個小時了。

有一次我記得很清楚,我給了接待員我的名片,她告訴我稍等之後,我便坐在那裡 …半小時過去了..然後一個小時,第二小時過去了,當醫生出來時,接待員抓住機會,請問醫生,是否能見我一下。 “不”,是醫生的答復,既響亮又清晰。他不僅拒絕我,而且他還大聲以便讓我聽到他的答覆。對這種故意令人難堪的態度,我硬是吞下他的故意傷害人自尊心的態度,裝着輕鬆無事,很有風度的避開接待員難過的眼光,走出辦公室。一旦出來了,我的眼淚止不住的像洪水湧出來了。

幸運的是,我能立即試圖扭轉局勢,前往在同一商場精品店,進去店裡買了6件漂亮的上衣和長褲以獎勵自己的勇氣。業主因為看到了我的淚水還給我額外的折扣呢!

接着有天我開車往高速公路,忽然有一種直覺,我需要掉頭回來拜訪一位醫生。我知道必須按照我的直覺,不然會錯過一些機會。當我走進去,有一位新來的年輕醫生看到我,請我進去他的辦公室。由于他年輕,那天我只是逕自在跟他的談論人生經歷和給他建議。我竟然忘了去那裏的目的了。他似乎很樂意聽我的話,經過近10分鐘,他問我是否來自家庭護理機構。我對他說“是”,他拿起一張文件,並告訴我,這名病人需要的服務。哇,似乎病人的資料都已經準備好在那裏了只等我的到達!不需要我的懇求,我便得到了,唯一我需要做的是接受它。這麼的不費力氣,這麼容易。

我也終于明白當我們不受制于習慣思維的框框,不再用理性的思維,讓自己成空,神性便能接管,當然一切的不可能都會成為可能。

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